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Thought of the Week

An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Not Dead! Just relaxing.

November 9, 2011

Hello my lil Goddesses,

It’s been a while since I have written anything because I luck has turned for the worst (I’m in my local library and have 29 minutes to write this). No Lap top 😦 and no internet 😦 , but I promise to come back with a vengeance.

2011 has been the year of stripping the many layers (and flesh) I have gained over my 25 years so it’s safe to say I once again undermined the hardwork involved in being the ultimate Goddess.

The rebirth of MustBeAGoddess will commence in 2012 (won’t be that hard I’ll just use the same resoultions I use every freaking year).

In the mean time ladies keep you head, heels and standards high.


London Burning: A message EVERYONE should read!

August 9, 2011


It is 2:40am and my eyes are refusing to shut down!

Elbert Hubbard (American Writer)

The recipe for perpetual ignorance is a very simple and effective one: be satisfied with your opinions and content with your knowledge.

London riots started in Tottenham three days ago. Did you think for one moment you would witness a gang riot in Tottenham lead to hell on Earth? No, neither did I.

Name Calling and Negative Vibes

Teachers who bully children do not deserve to teach – Leaders playing with money and forcing children to grow up in squalor do not deserve to lead – Police who kill the innocent do not deserve to wear the uniform – Youth workers who do not care for the children they’re ‘helping’ should do everyone a favour and stay away – Parents who have neglected their children pay attention to them and bring them back to you.

Those just mentioned are the heroes in the eyes of the child. IF YOU ABUSE YOUR POWER then you are the significant birth of the problem:

Plato (Classical Greek philosopher)

‘The most effective kind of education is that a child should play amongst lovely things.’

So please be a part of the solution and not the problem. Don’t bother wasting time on sending out the wrong messages that is moving our society away from peace! Refrain yourself from describing these children as ‘Thugs’, ‘Evil’, ‘Scum’, ‘Low class’, ‘Stupid’ etc. These words just personify spite and immorality:

SOPHOCLES, (The Sons of Aleus)

‘All concerns of men go wrong when they wish to cure evil with evil.’

My mother, father and I  have been teaching my sister for a long time about the consequence of her ‘actions‘. I thought she was ignoring me but the fact that she’s at home in bed and not outside as a looter, killer or arsonist must be proof that the message of hope and peace leads to positive results.

Kahlil Gibran (Lebanese American Poet)

Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair, but manifestations of strength and resolution.

Pass this message of solution to everyone. Share it, Scream it, Sing it, and Bring truth to it.

P.s: I have already been accused of condoning the behaviour of those causing the riots! I am God Fearing Person and try to live my life by the commandments therefore I am a strong advocate of the messages ‘Thou Shalt Not Kill’ & ‘Thou Shalt Not Steal’….

Peace and Love  Coming From



Frugal Buy: Primark Orange Canvas Bag

July 31, 2011

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The Article That Sums Up Addiction! by Russell Brand

July 31, 2011

‘Addiction should never be treated as a crime. It has to be treated as a health problem. We do not send alcoholics to jail in this country. Over 500,000 people are in our jails who are nonviolent drug users.’
Ralph Nader

#Acceptance: The First Rule

July 30, 2011

You will receive a body!

You may love it or hate it, but it will be

Yours for the duration of your life on Earth


  The first rule, in this marvellous book (‘If life is a game, these are the rules’ by Cherie Carter-Scott) begins with a logical and yet overlooked fact! We are giving one body throughout our lifetime…..WHY TREAT IT LIKE CRAP!

Now call me an idiot (you wouldn’t be the first) but throughout the past few years of yo-yo dieting, scrutinizing and neglecting my body NOT ONCE had I ever thought about, nurture.

The thought of accepting and loving my body is quite an alien thought, especially since I’m not best pleased with the way it looks at the moment. HOWEVER there is no denying that Carter-Scott makes a very good argument about the benefits of acceptance towards one’s body…. (can’t believe I just referred to myself as ‘one’!)

‘Acceptance is the act of embracing what life presents to

You with a good attitude. Our bodies are among the most

Willing and wise teachers of this lesson.’ Carter-Scott (1999)

Ok, so it turns out that my body does not owe me, but rather the other way round. So how on Earth am I going to accept my body I don’t like it?

I continue to read on and now understand that the basic logic behind Carter-Scott’s rule is to start accepting and loving my body. Why not give it a try? I went to my room took all my clothes off apart from panties (sorry but the whole look at yourself naked thing just makes me laugh! Juvenile I know) and went in front of the mirror. The following text shall illustrate my thoughts at that very moment:

‘Stop looking around the room and look at yourself you idiot! Oh ok cool, hmmm. Accept accept  accept…., ok good. How huge are my eyes? BUT I accept their hugeness for they give me the ability to enjoy reading and watching TV. Awww bless my tiny ears. Very disproportionate to my very large head BUT I ACCEPT THEM because they’re my pint-sized ears. Oooh my lips are juicayyyy, I definitely accept them! My nose cute and small I ACCEPT. Hmm my national front forehead, wow I really am from East Africa. BUT I ACCEPT. My teeth, just so grateful I still have some after chomping on sweets and chocolate as a kid (and occasionally as a grown up!) Ok head and face out of the way the real work starts now.

Shoulders mesh in with my head quite nicely! My boobies (sorry breasts!)  are bouncy and actually don’t sag so I definitely accept. My arms…hmm not so fun anymore. But you know what looking past the bingo wings; I shall accept them because without them I would not be able to pick up my friends’ babies nor would I be able to write this. What the hell guys I Accept you to. My legs! My legs! My legs! I have to accept you don’t I? From the ‘cute’ little dimples on my thighs to the way you jiggle when I walk, I accept you because you continually work your hardest to get me from A to B and for that I am grateful.  The colour of my skin? No problem there, I ACCEPT. My stomach…………………………………………………………………………………………………….one day I will accept you but not now!

Wow talk about ending it on a bad note! But you know what? I accept the fact that I don’t accept my mid-area because this is a very new concept. But rest assured stomach I shall work on you the hardest (at the gym) and promise that I will one day love you (when your flat) like the rest of your family members.

Ok seriously total stumbling block! I HATE MY STOMACH!

 What I’m wondering is that once I accept my body does that mean I have to stay the way I am? Need not to worry for those that wondered the same thing because once again Carter-Scott has a very reasonable explanation for this matter:

‘It is perfectly natural and human to want to be at your physical best. What this means, however is that you need to stop criticizing, judging or finding fault with your body even when you are not at your healthiest or most attractive. The drive for self-improvement is completely healthy as long as it comes from a place of self-love rather than a feeling of inadequacy.’ Carter-Scott (1999)


For the past month I have applied this rule to my life and you know what?? It works a charm. Loving my body is easy, free and eliminates toxic thoughts in my head. Not to say that I don’t want to lose two stones by the end of the year BUT I refuse to lose the weight with the help of self-hate, scrutiny and micro-obsession. I have better things to think about as far as I’m concerned.

For those who have just read this blog and immediately dismissed the thought of accepting their body think about it like this. The opposite of acceptance is rejection!  Remember how you felt the last time you were rejected by someone you liked or the job you did not get!

Until Next Times Ladies and Gentleman


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If Life is a Game…What are the Rules?

July 17, 2011

Hello Fellow Goddesses,

I don’t really know where to start with reviewing this book. Furthermore I cannot stress enough the impact this book has had on my life for the past month.

I am convinced that this manuscript was sent to me from my Guardian Angel (he is a Brazilian named is Gustav and he is as camp as hell 😉 as I was reaching to the state of ‘f**k the world’ attitude.

Last month, I wound up hiding at my friends’ flat as a result of my drama ridden life. I did what I always do when life becomes too much for me, hide!  Hide from debts, lunatic parents (sorry I mean eccentric!), bad ass teenage sister, work stress and everything else that comes with being a grown up (what happened to the days of cartoons and toys?). They were nice enough to let me stay for the night and that’s when I discovered THE BOOK. Of all the books on their shelf (and trust me they have loads) this bright blue little book titled ‘If Life is a Game, What are the Rules’ stood out like a sore thumb. Now take it from someone who has filled her brain with loads self-help books! When I say ‘this book is changing my way of thinking’ I really do mean it. BTW  I find great comfort in knowing that I am taking great interest in my wellbeing hence why I have no shame in admitting that this is what I do. HOWEVER in saying that every book I have attempted to read that promises ‘to change my life forever’ has been unread or used as a coaster….until now.

The book is sectioned into Ten Basic Rules, rules that should be used by everyone in order to play the game called ‘Life’ & ‘Win’ at the same timeCherie Carter-Scott PhD has demonstrated the art of fulfilment through anecdotes that everybody could relate to & advice so basic it takes no strength to apply it in our everyday lives. Furthermore what makes this book an easy read is the lack of harshness or patronisation most self-help books deliver through their advice. In fact forget the term ‘self-help’ and think ‘the rule book of life’.  In addition (and this is a big addition) the book stays on track in delivering the one vital message that should have been specified to each mortal at birth. We are the artists of our own masterpiece/existence.

I was reluctant to mention this on the blog as I was not fully convinced that one small book can execute all the bad behaviour I have consumed over the years (self-hate, anger, addiction, negativity, envy, greed, grumpy, sneezy, bashful…oh sorry wrong list) but the result speaks for itself. I found this book last month; applied the rules throughout this month and can proudly declare that this has been the longest period in my life I have been content and happy with my life, regardless of the drama. Coincidence, I think not!

Fear not my lil Goddesses I would never tease you by making mentions of the rules without telling you what they are. But since I cannot fit it into this one post I now declare ‘If Life is a Game, These are the Rules’ as the foundation of my MustBeAGoddess Mission. So watch this space ladies and gentleman.

Until Next Time Ladies

A very content


Silent Meditation – FIRST session

July 17, 2011

Meditation coach:  Once I hit the gong three times, close your eyes or have them slightly open, sit in a comfortable position and start your meditation. If you find yourself getting distracted just bring yourself gently back to your centre. Drown out the sound from outside and pay attention to your centre.  The two basic techniques are to concentrate on your breathing or use a mantra in your head (popular one being Hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm). Once the twenty minutes is up, I will hit the gong three times and gently you must come out of your meditation………Bong, bong, bonnnggggggg….

Inside my  head for twenty minutes ….

Ok how should I do this! I’ll focus on my breathing…………………Euughh my breathing is so gross. Blatantly beathing like an old dog cause of smoking. Why am I suddenly finding it hard to breathe? Go back to your centre!  Hmm maybe I should do the mantra instead. Open one eye to see what everyone is doing….Shame people are doing this properly. Close eyes right now! Hummmmmmmmmmmmmm. Am I doing this right? I wish he would tell me if I’m doing this right. Hmm maybe not since I’m still thinking. Man, Camden is a loud place. Trying to concentrate but humming along to the tune outside, woooooo yeah my jam! Must stop and go back to my centre. What the hell is my centre? I know I’ll imagine the beach. Me on the beach; White sand, crystal blue sea with a Pina Colada at arm’s reach. REALLY NEED A HOLIDAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY. Going back to the centre! This is so hard. Why my mind won’t shut the hell up I do not know. How long have I had my eyes closed? Wow look at all the pretty shapes and colours my brain is producing. Hummmmmmmmmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmmm WOW I’m actually doing it right, crap go back to your centre idiot. Back to the centre Mak, backkkkk to your Hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

Peter hits the gong three times and announces meditation over

Outcome: My mind is sooo peaceful & calm (sort of). I now acknowledge that meditation is no easy exercise. Trying to shut my mind up for twenty minutes is probably one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. But the 3 minutes I had reached my centre was lovely. Allowing the world to continue moving whilst I sat still and came face to face with my centre was truly an experience of serenity (sounding like a full fledge hippie, I know)

I turned to my colleague who was at this point in her own world of tranquillity and whispered ‘Next week?’, in which she replied ‘Hell yeah’.

Until Next Time Ladies

A very peaceful


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